Why it’s Important to Slow Down and Pursue A Positive Life

It is so easy to get caught up in the race of day to day life. Our responsibilities and commitments pull us in several directions at once. There are so many demands on our lives that it is often difficult to slow down. However, it is very important to take a few minutes here and there to slow down and smell the roses.

Here are some habits that won’t take a lot of your time, but will have an amazing impact on your daily life.

Practice Gratitude

Even on our worst days, we have so much to be grateful for. Even when everything is going wrong, it is important to focus on the things in our lives that are going right. Whether it’s the breath you take or the roof over your head, it’s important to remind yourself our lives are made up of more than the negative.

I think of the question “What if you woke up today with only the things you were grateful for yesterday?”. It puts some of my blessings into perspective.

Start the Day with a Positive Mindset

Sometimes you may have to get up early just to have a few extra minutes to remind yourself of all the things you are grateful for.
Remind yourself WHY this is going to be a great day. Start with a cup of coffee or a walk to relax or energize.

It’s very easy to get sucked into the negative thoughts of the day, especially if the people around you are negative, your job is demanding and your family life is overwhelming. But it’s important to take a few minutes to take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are blessed with people around you, a job that provides, and a family to love.

Practice Kindness

With so much negativity in the world, it’s uplifting to put a little kindness out there. Not only does it make the person you are kind to feel better, but it also helps life your own spirits.

Spend Time with Friends or Family – and Put Away the Phones

It’s uplifting to connect with the people in your life. Remind those you love how much they mean to you, and how much you appreciate them. Spend time with them talking, laughing, and reminding each other how important it is to love and be loved.

Live in the Present

Focus on what is happening RIGHT NOW. Focus on what you are doing right now. When you start to think about the future, you start to worry and feel anxiety. Thinking about the past can bring depression. By thinking about the past or the future, you miss what is happening right now. Right in front of you. Enjoy every moment you are in.

Smile

Even if you have to fake it at first, try as much as possible to smile. When you smile, you encourage others to smile. They smile back, you smile back… It’s an endless cycle.

Learn Something New

Learning a new hobby or reading a new book provides inspiration. Being creative allows you to open new doors within yourself. Learning a new skill allows you to focus on something besides your every day tasks. Even if you simply listen to an audio book on your way home from work, you will have learned something new, processed a new thought, and added to your life.

Be Kind to Yourself

This may be the hardest one, but certainly the most important. Be mindful of your self talk. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. When we make mistakes, we tend to beat ourselves up – sometimes for days or weeks. It’s important to recognize where we made mistakes and acknowledge them. However, focusing on them will not change things. Remind yourself to focus on only the things you can change, such as how you will do better in the future. Everyone makes mistakes. The key is to keep trying.

 

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

They will never have the same experiences you have had, so they will never understand why you do the things you do. They may never be able to do the things you do at all. Many people measure success by a single measurement – how much money someone has, or how put together they look, or how happy they appear. But the truth is never revealed to others. You cannot compare your life and your experiences to theirs any more than you can compare apples to oranges. We may share some similar situations, but not all. Making us each unique individuals.

Be Mindful of Negative Self Talk

When you get up in the morning and the words out of your mouth are “I’m exhausted.”, “I need a pot of coffee.”,  or “Is it Friday, yet?”, you are focusing on the negative. When you believe the negative things about yourself, “I look horrible in this outfit.”, “I need to lose about 20 pounds.” or “I’ll never be able to keep up with all the things I have to do today.”, you are putting those thoughts into motion.

Just by changing you thoughts to be more positive and supportive of yourself, you will be surprised what you can accomplish. When you feel the “I can’t” statements coming out, try to rephrase them with a power statement, a positive statement. “I AM going to accomplish everything I can today.” “I AM”  “I CAN” and “I WILL” start as many statements as you can with these empowering phrases and watch the changes in your mindset.